Missing out on orgasm?

I have never in my entire life experienced an orgasm through intercourse, although I have no problem achieving an orgasm through direct clitoris stimulation. I feel like I am really missing out sexually, especially when I hear others speaking of multiple orgasms. Are we doing something wrong or is it just me?

A: There is no right or wrong when it comes to sexual intercourse. There is information that you need to know to help you feel better about yourself.

The clitoris is the most sensitive of all the female genital organs. The sensations that are most intense in the clitoris are the ones responsible for the first stage of sexual arousal as well as for the orgasm itself. Conclusion: There is no physiological difference between " vaginal orgasm" and " clitoral orgasm." Think about it! Penile thrusting stimulates the clitoris indirectly. That's why at least 30 to 50 percent of sexually active women need additional clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm during intercourse. It is considered " normal" for a woman to need that extra manual stimulation, either by the woman herself, by her partner or by a vibrator.

As for multiple orgasms, there are techniques that may produce or enhance your desired results. Consider taking a Tantric workshop. Mind, Body, & Spirit: Sex Tantric practices are based on more than 4,000 years of tradition, knowledge and experience in integrating the complexities of being, encompassing the spiritual, emotional, physical and mental aspects of our nature.

Books on Tantric sex -- and there are quite a few -- can either guide you through the course or help you determine whether or not this is for you and your mate before scoping out a Tantric workshop.
Andrew Weil, M.D.